Re: Complete Role Reversal, hmm, it could be… - Posted by AnnNC
Posted by AnnNC on April 11, 2001 at 21:45:17:
Let’s see, 9 months of worry…Could it be something like…Post- Partum Depression?
And then only to fast -foward to Empty nest? Hardly fair at all!
What wonderful responses to your post so far! Ditto to all! And kindhearted advice.
You have gone through upheavals in several areas of your life.
You probably don’t even know what garden to plant in your new planting
"zone". Plants that were standby’s can’t survive your newfound climate. You didn’t even know you would miss that comfort zone of just having one thing that you knew how to do.
Nothing seems familiar, and now you’re the little fish to boot.
And yet you have a gift–to know how to just start up and make your own living, that doesn’t depend on possibility of getting fired.
You may feel like you failed in your house sale, but you didn’t…you just
"made an executive decision". ( I had a house like that once…and didn’t have any clue about ‘creative’ ways to handle it, lost all profit, had no control, felt like an idiot, wish I had lease/optioned it or leased it; “Money Pit” without the happy ending) screwed even by my own RE atty etc.)
Perhaps you felt you were bested by the investor who bought you out.
What went wrong? Why wasn’t I the one in the drivers’ seat?
I should have known better! you didn’t fail. You bailed out to live to invest again! Think of it as a learning experience. You especially can learn from that investor. Analyze that deal. Remove it from emotion. Stop thinking about setting fire to your copies of the closing papers right now!
rejoice instead. Write a heartfelt professional thank you note to the investor who bought you out. Feel better.
Find someone to mentor in RE. You will realize how valuable you are.
( You learn best when you teach).
Maybe you’re bored with details and could find someone to do them for you.Or you could get equity partners. You got that deal-making machine going…so?
You already said that REI suits your personality and skills. Why mess with that? Think of ways to delegate.
Meet people, perhaps, volunteer with Habitat for Humanity. Find out how they find properties, or who the volunteers are (carpentry classes or others) Or sell property to them , or just relax and meet people there. Or take a course, or teach a course.
Or volunteer to build sets with the local community theater.
Yes,it’s true, you have to feed your spirit and soul.
No one thing can give you everything.
Your choice of books seems to imply you feel you did wrong. But you did
good. You took risks, and yet you are solvent.
Try also, “When All You’ve Ever Wanted Isn’t Enough” by Harold
Kushner, (author of “When Bad Things Happen to Good People”)
There is a concept, “the melancholy of all things done” expressed by
Buz Aldrin, when he got back from that trip he made to the moon.
Find “The Prophet” by Kalil Gibran at the library, and read first chapter/intro.
"…and who can depart from his sorrow and pain without regret…"
I also suggest, not sarcastically, or lightly, to get a dog. Be very serious about choosing the right breed for you, about his obedience training, and your friendship, and then play, and learn from him.