Re: Followup: Is Patience the Answer? Do You Feel like I Do? - Posted by JohnBoy
Posted by JohnBoy on March 20, 2000 at 24:55:52:
I think you already know the answer based on your post.
Is there a sure-fire guarantee? NO! There are no guarantee’s in life. Is there a sure-fire guarantee that your husband would keep his JOB for the rest of his life if he chose too? Even with all the layoffs he speaks off? Is that really a reality??? If he was to be the next victim of a corporate layoff, what would happen with the friends, neighborhood, two cars, and having to go without? How long can you sustain your current life style until he finds another job to replace the income?
You say he gets up and goes to his 9 - 5 with little enthusiasm, but you see him most happy when he makes a deal. He’s a different man, the man you want to see everyday. Which one do you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Here is a book that you both should pick up and read. It’s called, “Feel The Fear, And Do It Anyway!” By Susan Jeffers.
You say you read all his e-mails, newsletters, and books, but haven’t told him. WHY??? I’d bet he would love to know you have an interest in this also. Maybe you could team up and work together in this. Instead of you getting a job and giving up one of the cars you can help him pursue his dreams by becoming involved with the real estate. Maybe you can develop a plan that would get you two going to where he can leave the corporate world quicker if he had you by his side as his real estate partner. While he’s doing the 9 - 5 maintaining the income level everyone is used to, you can be his full time partner to pursue the real estate full time.
If your doubtful that you may not be able to do this or know enough yet, then start out by helping him locate the deals. You hunt them down, pre-screen the sellers on their motivation to sell, and he steps in to negotiate and close the deal!
You both sound like you love each other very much. You sound like you share the same dreams and want the same things for each other. Well then, “LADY, GET OUT THERE AND HELP HIM MAKE IT HAPPEN!”
There’s nothing like a husband and wife that share the same dreams and have the same desires as each other and that can work together as a team and build that financial independence. It’s got a magic to it like nothing else! and that’s reality!
Here’s something I read and kept that I’ll post here to share with you.
Dance Like No One’s Watching
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said, “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life”.
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time…and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink, until you’ve sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
Thought for the day:
Work like you don’t need money,
Love like you’ve never been hurt,
And dance like no one’s watching.
(Don’t remember where I got this from or who wrote it, might have been posted here on this newsgroup before)