Hmmm. Well, I disagree. - Posted by Ronald * Starr(in No CA)
Posted by Ronald * Starr(in No CA) on August 29, 2003 at 24:14:48:
I disagree. I think that your subject line could be written by the vast majority of real estate investors, even the “successful” ones. However, I don’t detect “self destructive” tendancies in this situation as you have presented it.
When you worked with the attorny, you were allied and so any education you gave to him was appropriate, I think. It helped you and perhaps could future help him. Nothing self-destructive there, I think.
Now, you are on opposite sides of the fence. Can happen. Could happen between partners, spouses, and client-tradesperson, it seems to me.
This analysis is void if you screwed up the relationship with the attorney in a self-destructive way.
I have a streak of self-harm behavior myself. I wait for somebody else–like mommy or daddy–to come and give me what I want, rather than self-reliantly taking responsibility for myself and acting directly to get what I want. I am workikng on getting out of this and have made good progress recently. But it is hard to take the responsibility for oneself when one is waiting for somebody else to do it.
Also, I have a tendancy to want pity from people. I want people to feel bad about the pain that they caused me by not giving me everything I wanted. So I want pepole to see how down I am and feel badly for me. Even though the current people are not the one who hurt me when I was young. Of course, the major folks then were, surprise, “mommy and daddy,” and they are not living any more.
Anyway, I hope through self-insight you can can make changes in how you view things and how you act so that you can ease off on the self-destructive actions.
Good Investing and Good PostingRon Starr********