Re: please help - Posted by Dons
Posted by Dons on May 22, 2007 at 18:18:17:
The enemy is fear.
Years ago I learned everything I needed to know about fear from an Alaskan Malamute pup. It was mid 1970’s when friends of ours had a Malemute and my wife fell in love with it. She wanted one. So as a graduation gift for her when she finished law school, I bought a 5 pound Alaskan Malamute pup for her.
Eventually he became 105 pounds of bounding stupidity. When he weighed about 20 pounds we decided to teach him to walk with us and to not pull on a leash. (Not pulling is a losing battle with Malamutes. They have a computer chip in their brain that says “pull…pull hard.”)
We walked out the door, up the street to the first block, turned left and the darn fool critter sat down mule-like…would not budge. He was frightened to death about something. Maybe he thought the boogy-dog was going to jump out of the bushes and devour him. We turned around an went home.
Next night…same story except he walked a couple hundred feet farther on that second block before turning into a fear-mule. Well, the heck if I was going to carry my wife’s dog on his walks! At 20 pound that would be difficult. At 105 pounds…impossible.
The third night we went a little farther before his fear stopped him.
It took us a week to get him around the block once! After that he was fine. He would walk anywhere. He needed to work his way though his fear.
Guess what? Humans are a lot like that too. Soooo now you get to stop being a fear-mule. Or fear Malamute. Or fear human!
You say you have been studying this business for two years. How much have you been studying? What have you been studying? Have you read EVERY book about REI you could get your hands on? They are even available used through Amazon if you don’t have the money. And to study them treat that book as if it were a college text book and needed to KNOW everything in there in order to pass an exam.
Most importantly…have you joined your nearest REIA? You will find it to be a gold mine of information.
There are a whole group of free articles on this website. Have you studyied them? Just like studying a text book. I’ll send you an email about a bunch of free articles on doing REI. I have to go look up their location first.