Posted by John Behle on July 09, 2003 at 24:14:26:
I can’t find the email I received among many thousands archived on my computer right now. Maybe when I’ve had some sleep I will. I haven’t slept in two days due to back pain. That may reflect in a less than coherent answer, but I’ll do what I can.
The email that jumps out is one where the sender was interested in my course, but discouraged by what he read on your site. He emailed you direct and the reply referred to me using the words of either “Impertinent” or “Impudent”. I don’t recall at the moment. That may have been the substance of it. A couple others have told me that they did not buy my course because of what they read at the site.
The internet can be a challenge with communication. Though your initial comments, my reply and your apology are all there, many people apparently still take it negatively. It also tends to drag me into many of these conversations as someone points out the error or someone else points out the apology, etc.
More often than not, I have defended your site and motives in discussions here and elsewhere. At times though I have disagreed with some of the details at the site and more specifically the critical and cynical nature. I have mixed feelings about some of that because I too have had some strong feelings about many of the same people. There’s people on the list that owe me money, have tried to hustle my wife or I’ve seen some of their lies and antics. I run across them at seminars and conventions and some of the table jumping run down the isle with a hundred dollar bill stuff turns my stomach. I’ve left the room or refused to speak any more for people when I hear incredible exagerations about their cash flow, wealth or something similar. Standing in the back listening to one promoter I thought was one of the “better guys” I was stunned as first he said Donald Trump subscribed to his newletter. Then he said his cash flow was 40 million dollars per week. Next he said Robert Redford was his neighbor. I knew all three were baloney. A few days later he showed up on my doorstep begging me to speak for them again. He was in tears as he related basically that he just couldn’t control himself and what he said when he was pitching in front of an audience.
More importantly I guess is that I hear from and run across thousands of other people’s students and get a good feel for who cares about more than just their student’s credit card limit. They are few and far between. So I get very cynical at times.
Some of them are very personable but I have no or little respect for their product or service to clients. Some annoy me or have done things like plagarize the name of my book - yet, I reluctantly withhold my personal opinion since I hear good feedback from their students.
So anyway, I can relate to the critical nature of the whole scenario, but feel it doesn’t necessarily serve the purpose your site and work are meant to do. Many have turned away from what could be valuable reading for them based on the negativity. Others seem to wallow in it and joy in spreading it around.
The battles around here get old real quick. It seems that hardly anyone takes the information, digests it and uses it to improve their life and learning. They tend to take sides one way or another. Pro Reed or Anti Reed and then battles follow. I’ve been blasted for suggesting your intentions are good and blasted much worse for suggesting there is another side to some of the stories or ratings.
All in all, I mostly agree with your recommendations on the positive side. A few of the neutrals and do not recommends I disagree with - both good and bad. A couple of the neutrals I would rate lower.
I encourage people to read your site - “Read Reed” as I suggested for a bumper sticker, but suggest they take it as information to process not as food for the fanatical zeal that some of them go for. Some go way overboard in the whole “hero” and “anti-hero” thing. They either want to worship someone or throw rocks at them. Neither furthers their education. Possibly they are just the vocal ones so it appears different than it is.
I’m not sure any of that is coming across right at the moment. Like I said, I’m tired, so may not be the most eloquent. Whatever I answer regarding questions about your site seems to get somebody angry no matter what I say so I’ll just go back to cleaning the pool.