Posted by karp on January 26, 1999 at 11:39:53:
This may sound a bit preachy but I figure you’re used to hearing it from Jim Piper…
A core Buddhist tenant is “UNATTACHED ACTION”, and it is one I really like.
Here it is:
While you are in the game you fight like mad. It is the MOST imnportant thing in the whole world. You are the ultimate challenger.
But, when it is over…You don’t think about it ANYMORE. At least, not emotionally, becuase there are only two responses you can have.
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Ego- “Dude, I kicked A**” on that deal. Puff yourself up enough and it will blind you to future deals as the game ceases to be about “them” and starts to be about “you”. I am pretty open about stuff, but it is still hurts for me to think about a 1.5 year dry spell I had. All becuase I forgot this.
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“Dude, I blew that one!” :{… So now we beat ourselves up about a deal we messed up and it affects our future performance…Not good either. I can also tell you I have experienced this one, far too often. Confidence shattering is an ugly scene. Avoid if possible.
So here’s the Unattached Approach:
When you are done with a deal? It never happened.
You go into each deal as if it is brand new. All your experience and learning is in your subconscious anyway, that will take care of itself. But you can go in free of any past experience whether positive or negative and hopefuilly see the deal for what it is…merely a deal and not the sum of all of your past victories and failures…
At the risk of sounding like Claude… Travel light, leave your baggage at home.
Thanks,
karp