Self Motivation (Long, Long) - Posted by Tom (W-Atl Ga)
Posted by Tom (W-Atl Ga) on October 01, 2001 at 17:31:53:
I must warn those of you that are reading this, this is a long posting. It asks or answers no questions, but merely allows myself to express to everyone that wishes to read this what I, as an individual, have come to realize about myself. This posting is more for myself than for anyone else, I suppose. So, if no one read it, or if it gets deleted, I fully understand. To me, just by writing it, reading, it and printing it, it has already served its purpose.
I would like to thank everyone on this site for all of their guidance and advice. Why it has taken me this long to even take the first step, I don’t know. I am one of the many that has been guilty over the years of buying courses, books, reading material, etc and just letting them sit on my shelves. That is right! I use ‘shelves’ in the plural sense in that my material that I have purchased over the years completely fill up two four-foot shelves.
I would learn techniques and procedures on how to succeed in this business. However, almost simultaneously, I would manufacture reasons and excuses why ‘I Can Not Succeed.’ I have just recently discovered that it was I defeating myself and not the business defeating me.
But there is something that I have discovered recently that I firmly believe has resulted in myself not even coming up to the plate. I have been coming to this site for the last 3 years. I have read, as well as everyone else here, that this business is based on motivated sellers. I have actually known that fact for even longer. But, and a very big BUT, I have also discovered that as motivated as the sellers are, there must be motivated buyers or investors. This motivation of course is very different between the sellers and investors. Without this motivation, or sense of urgency, an investor / buyer would just be inclined to watch from the sidelines.
I have come to realize that I have lacked this motivation. I have not had the urgency to achieve any type of financial gain. It really has not been any lack of knowledge that has held me back. Don’t get me wrong. I have always had a desire to have money. I have always dreamed of what I would buy if I had cash in the bank to spend on specific luxuries (i.e., what cars I would buy, how big my house would be, type of boat, etc). The problem that I am discovering is that by dreaming like this no matter what type of car I would buy, house I would buy, boat I would buy, I would never be satisfied and it would never be enough, and I would still be treading water. These types of possessions and purchases and dreams are by no means wrong, but they should be a result of my works, not the motivation for my works.
It is this newfound motivation that I truly believe that will push me through. As to what my motivation is, I have two pictures that I have tacked in a conspicuous place that I have to look at every morning. When I see these pictures it reminds me of what I am giving up on if I decide to quit and fail. In the past it was very easy to fail for myself. But I can?t possibly fail my goals that I have set for myself now. The two pictures are of my six month old son and my Dad. This is where my motivation lies.
As for my short term goals that I have set, they may seem pretty minor to each of you, but to me, if I can obtain them I will feel that I have reached a major plateau. Simply stating, it is my first goal to provide a good first Christmas for my son and my family. By no means are we living in poverty at this time, but for a short term goal, it would mean a lot to me if there were no worries as to what bill would be delayed, or my wife and myself not buying for each of us or additional family members.
My second goal would be to attempt to try to express my gratitude for my parents for everything that they have done for me over the years. I am very close to my parents and am very grateful for them. They have very consistently worked 50-60 hours/week (blue collar at that) providing the ?needs and a lot of the wants? for my other brother and sister over the years. It seems every year that my dad goes and window shops the car lots wanting to buy that new pickup truck. And every year he decides that he can afford the pickup, but it would mean his kids (myself, my brother and sister) and my mom may do without. To this day, he is still driving the 1977 Chevy pickup that he bought new (actually, this is the last auto he bought for himself 25 years ago). If I could buy him that new pickup truck as insignificant as it may sound, would mean a great deal to me.
I might have contradicted myself when I say that material possessions should not be my motivation to enter this business. I still stand by that statement. My motivation is not the material possessions, but the pride and joy that I will feel when I see my wife not cry when she pays the bills each month worrying what we will do for Christmas. It will be the pride and joy that I will feel when I see my dad sit in the cab of his new truck when I tell him that this is just a small token of what he and Mom has done for me over the years.
Again, I apologize for the length; it was not my intention to write a dissertation or a novel. I was just afraid that if I did not make any statement, that it would be far to easy to pretend that I never started this trek. Now, having stated all this, I can?t go back. I have to succeed.